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How I Got Asked Out by 17 Men in 12 Months

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Attract marriage-minded Christian men — without compromising your values, chasing, or swiping endlessly.

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  • Written by Jessica Santosa Carlton, founder of Dateability

  • Downloaded by thousands of Christian women aged 25–45 who desire real, godly connection

MY EBOOK IS DIFFERENT.

This eBook will give you hope, strategy, and steps — so you stop waiting and start becoming magnetic to quality, Christian men.

"You’re not asking too much. You’re just ready for more."

- JESS

Hi!

I'm ’m Jessica Santosa Carlton

— Dating Coach, Matchmaker, wife, and mum. I help Christian singles (25–45) who desire a biblical, God-honouring marriage navigate dating with peace, confidence, and discernment—without wasting time on dating apps or emotionally draining situationships.

I’ve walked this road myself.

At 26, I felt invisible—unsure how to meet godly men or stay hopeful in a world that rewards oversharing and fast romance.
But once I shifted my mindset, strategy, and emotional pace, something changed:
17 high-quality men asked me out in one year.


I married the man I prayed for—and yes, we waited until our wedding night.
Today, I’m a wife, mother, and coach who’s helped hundreds of singles go from stuck and striving to seen, pursued, and emotionally grounded.

Because I believe dating should feel peaceful—not pressured.

My mission is to help you build real, soul-deep connection—without ghosting, guessing, or compromising your convictions.

This free guide walks you through the exact slow courtship method I teach my clients—
and when applied with consistency and prayerful discernment, it can increase your chances of building a lasting, Christ-centred relationship by up to 70%.

13+

Successful Marriages

1 in 5

clients who applied this framework ended up in a committed relationship or marriage.

92%

of readers say they felt more emotionally grounded after reading this guide.

Here's what you'll learn in my EBook

How to Align Your Mindset with Marriage

Stop hoping and start preparing. Learn how your thought life influences who you attract.

How to Cultivate Your Feminine Energy God's Way

Discover what healthy, radiant femininity looks like in a Biblical context — and why men are drawn to.

Why Outcome-Driven Dating Sabotages You

Shift from striving to surrender — and allow space for God to orchestrate divine appointments.

How to Create Volume and Abundance in Your Social Life

How to date with your faith at the center, without pushing good men away or watering down your values

How to Be Approachable Without Compromising Your Values

Master the art of warm presence, friendliness, and feminine receptivity — without chasing.


How to Discern Who’s Pursuing with Purpose

Recognize green flags, set healthy boundaries, and know when to walk away — all while honoring God.



You Could Be My Next Match-Made Testimony!

This isn’t just a guide — it’s a proven path that’s helped real people attract real, godly love (without dating apps or striving

 thought I was too late. I cried reading the intro — Jess put into words everything I’ve been feeling. And then gave me HOPE.

Rachel, 38

I’ve already had 3 new dates in 2 months — all quality Christian men I met in real life.

Christina, 36

I stopped blaming men and started shifting how I show up. That changed everything.

Amara, 42

This reset how I view dating. No more striving — just grace, wisdom, and open doors.

Danielle, 34

This guide is for Christian women who are:

  • Tired of surface-level dating and confusing signals

  • Ready to be seen, pursued, and chosen by a godly man

  • Desiring a love story that reflects Christ — not culture

  • Looking for Biblically-aligned ways to meet men without dating apps

You don’t want casual. You want covenant.

A little soul fuel for your day...

You’re not asking too much. You’re just ready for more

  • You are not invisible.

  • You are not behind.

  • And you are not forgotten by God.

Whether you’re 30 or 55, single or divorced, this guide will show you how to:

✨ Walk in your feminine authority

✨ Cultivate your God-given magnetism

✨ Attract masculine, Christ-centered men — without chasing



You’re Not Behind. You’re Being Made Ready.

This guide is more than steps — it’s a rhythm.
One that brings rest, realness, and discernment back to the way we date.

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